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Sunday, July 6, 2014

Brothers That Stick Together

Thursday, Harry was sick with a cough and fever, so he
stayed in bed while I got Alex and Spencer ready for the bus.
Alex didn't like the idea of Harry not going with them!
He was a little worried that the routine would not be the same!
See those two fingers crossed?
That's a little body language saying that he's anxious.
I've mentioned it a few times before.



I had only packed two lunches and put them by the front door.
Alex got Harry's empty lunch bag and set it in the row.
Aw.  Poor buddy!  He did end up going on the bus with
Spencer and had a good day.
Harry is improving, too.  Thanks for everyone who
wished him well.  No fever.  We're just messing with the
yucky, runny nose now.  He doesn't blow his nose, although
I've made many attempts to teach him.
I have to use a syringe on it.  Oh, the things I must do!
Crazy kid.  :)

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  1. its an amazing depth that bond that binds those boys, its heart warming, our family is learning all about the importance of not breaking schedules and routines with our Gracie , I understand, I hope he is well soon and I hope that everyone else doesn't get it, we had it here, nasty cold, you are a good mum,,

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    1. It is amazing, isn't it? But I'll tell you that is does improve! Years ago, neither boy would have gone without Harry without some kind of meltdown. Now they are concerned but do eventually accept it and can have a normal day with the new wrench thrown in. Alex is still the most sensitive about these things, though. He's the one that sits in the front window and waits for me on auction days. Aw. :)

      Nobody else has caught it! So far so good! haha.

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    2. So sweet. Touching photos. Hope they'll all be on the bus together soon. ;-)

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    3. Thanks, Mare! I may keep Harry home one more day and then happily send them all on Tuesday! :)

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  2. How touching Alex is concerned for his brother and I see the fingers crossed and I looked your other example.
    Shame Harry can't blow his nose - it would make life so much more comfortable fot him. I jusr wonder how he could be taught tp do it.

    Ah and Alex getting Harry's empty lunch box - Betsy, how touching.
    What a wonderful mother you are to those boys :)

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    1. When I try to teach Harry to blow his nose, he makes the appropriate sound through his mouth! Then we all roar with laughter. Oh dear.

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    2. Can Alex and Spencer blow their noses?

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    3. No! I've consistently failed in that area.. Although I did teach Taylor without problems! haha.

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    4. Well I doubt whther anyone can actually remember who taught us to do it - but it just seems a natural thing to do. Perhaps if a sneeze was induced somehow that might work. :)

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    5. Well, I've tried for 20 years times three. haha. The autism throws a wrench in some things. I've read that it is a hard one for them to grasp. And they are seldom sick, so we don't get to practice very often. Induce a sneeze...then plug their mouth as they do it? lol....

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    6. When i was a disgusting smelly little urchin I used to wipe my nose on my sleeve, that's why the teachers nicknamed me "Greensleeves"

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    7. When Harry was just a little thing, he wiped his nose back and forth very hard on the carpet and took all the skin off his nose. Then he really was a sorry sight....snotty and bloody and skinless. He looked horrible!

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    8. Poor little chap - how awful for him . . . . and you!

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  3. I suspect others have suggested it ... you must write a book!!!! The brotherly bond is beyond touching, it's tear-producing, heart-warming.

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    1. I wish I had kept a journal all those years. But I had my hands full...too full to write. ha.

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  4. A syringe you
    Oh that must make his and your day
    Glad the germs are floating off
    And no one else have begun to cough
    A great bond they have indeed
    There at your feed

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    1. Only a mother would endure such things
      but relief a syringe does bring!
      Once they feel how it works
      they let me do it without too many jerks.
      They get a good grip on my arm sometimes, though.
      Oh, it would be easier if they would just blow!
      lol....

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    2. lol blow up a balloon and get a tissue
      Then let the balloons air blow into it to solve the issue haha

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    3. haha.They would mimic the balloon sound with their mouth
      and wonder why I still stood there to pout.

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  5. aw Betsy I understand He was worry not be the same without harry! I understand his routine sigh!
    And cute Alex put the harry's lunch box in the door:)
    Im happy he feel better!"

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    1. Yeah, it was pretty cute, wasn't it? Poor Alex! Aw, so sweet.
      Are you better, too?
      Did you bring some flan with you? ha.

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    2. Haha! I could bring someones!
      Yes im better and for this I made my post.
      Yes I think Alex was cute maybe he thinks you forget some lunchbox lol
      Yes I remember he crossed his fingers sometimes.Poor dear.

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    3. Yes, the lunchbox thing was really cute. I just had to laugh.

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  6. Awww...such sweet boys. So glad Harry is feeling better : )

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    1. I'm so glad we didn't all come down with it! I've washed everyone's hands lots and lots! I did catch Spencer taking Harry's sucker and finishing it for him! Ugh! So far he's ok.

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  7. Awww - that really is sweet. So glad Harry is doing better and that Alex had a good day. We do things as Mom's that we would never have thought we could handle!

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    1. That is so true....Mom's can do...and will do...anything for their kids! haha. We're super women! :)

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  8. Glad that Harry is better. What a tremendous bond they share.
    Wishing each of you a nice Sunday.

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    1. Thanks, Mildred! We're planning a nice Sunday. Weather looks great!

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  9. That is just too sweet... The pictures are priceless too. I had twin cousins, Kenneth and Karl that were my age. Karl was killed when he was 10 on his bicycle when hit by a drunk driver. It took Kenneth years to get over it. Sorry, but I had to chucked picturing you taking care of Harry runny nose...You are such a trooper!!! Sending love and hugs.

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    1. Oh, that is so touching about your twin cousins. What a hard thing for Kenneth. How lonely he must have felt.

      Poor Harry. He was so clogged just now he choked taking his night time meds and spit them all in the sink. :(

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  10. You deserve a medal. Or at least "Mom of the Year". How about a vacation?

    I am having a hard time deciding how to proceed with my brother and how much of an advocate I need to be. He lives half an hour away and I have not much insight into drugs, living situations, or how to handle adults (or children for that matter) with his condition. Sometimes I'm afraid I just set him off...

    I love the lunch bags and am touched by the love your boys have one for another.

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    1. yes, that's hard! If you don't live with them and see subtle things, it's hard to know! Every once in a while I'll get a call from the day program with one that's upset and they ask me what's wrong. Well, without being there, taking in the situation, who else it there, is there a substitute teacher, new student, change in routine, etc, etc, etc you just can't tell. Same with meds....you need to observe 24/7 to get a good feel. Praying for you...that's hard not being right there. It's the nonverbal part that makes it SO hard. Mine won't even answer a yes or no question so you can't gauge how they feel or what is bothering them. You just learn from years of intuition and subtle body language.

      Yeah, the lunch boxes was my favorite part. I put Harry's away and he did it again! haha.

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  11. ugh. i hope he continues to feel better....and smiling at their putting the lunchbox out...
    but glad that he had a good day despite his rhythm being thrown off a bit by brothers sickness

    you have some pretty cool boys, but you know that...smiles.

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    1. yeah...the lunch box was pretty cute.

      They ARE cool....smiles. ha.

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  12. I like this post because it says so much about the dynamics of your home.
    Love, routine, care, concern and helpfulness, through sickness and health!
    Throw in some chuckles, a few cats (animals) and there you have it!
    The bow on top is you Betsy. You keep things all together and with style!
    {{{{{hugs}}}}}

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    1. Betsy, the bow. I like that! haha. Yes, chuckles are very important! :)

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  13. Oh Betsy, this tremendous challenge you have to face every day! And I know or could imagine nobody, who would face it so graciously and with so much charm like you do. Your talent, to ceate this delightful little story out of what actually seems to have been a considerable crisis ! You can make it all seem to be so easy-going. But I am pretty sure , it actually cannot be like this. But I can very rarely read a little bit about the physical and mental hardships in the subtext of your posts. But you never seem to complain. I hope this is good and the most helpful for you.... Have a beautiful summer Sunday!!!!

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    1. haha...oh, you are very perceptive! Yes, there are times I do feel quite anxious and worried about them. But we are 20 years into this and I have learned to keep a perspective on how much of a crisis each situation really is. Most things work themselves out quite easily but there are other times that it is worse. Just the other week I sent the boys out the door only to have Alex stop and slap the side of our house and scream! Then when he went on and got on the bus I heard the bus aide yelling, "Stop it! Let go of me!" Oh dear! I had to throw a coat on over my nightgown and go make sure Alex was going to settle down or have to come back inside and stay home. Fortunately, he settled down and ended up having a good day. ha. Whew!

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  14. You do have an incredible life Betsy....
    Sometimes I need to stop...and put my own life into perspective....you allow me to do just that...
    Enjoy your Sunday my friend...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. It is a little incredible, isn't it? Crazy, unpredictable and challenging! haha....nothing like I dreamed it would be. But we all have something, don't we?

      Sunday has been absolutely lovely...perfect weather, relaxing day, yummy food. So nice!

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  15. So glad Harry is on the mend -
    Mary

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  16. Haha, so sweet! It's like Alex thought that he could will Harry to go to school with him if he put his lunch out. Glad he was able to have a good day anyway, and that they will be going to school together again soon.

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  17. This really is so sweet Betsy...

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  18. Hi Betsy - you certainly teach us to think and understand things I'd have never have thought of ... glad he's getting better and that Spencer and Alex went to school and had a good time ..

    Here's a less yucky time ahead soon .. withthoughts Hilary

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