My blog friend Sandy at 4 Reluctant Entertainers had a wonderfulpost today on friendships. This especially hit home to me as I
had to recently end a friendship with one of my closest girlfriends.
It was a hard and painful decision, but the friendship had been
unravelling for about 2 years. Friends are supposed to be fun, right?
And if they aren't and the cracks can't be mended after trying
over and over, sometimes it's just time to say good bye.
Since this is my recent experience, Sandy's post hit the
nail on the head! Such good advise to all of us!
Sorry about you having to end a friendship. Perhaps the ex friend needs to go to the 4 Reluctant Entertainers blog and read "Is this a healthy friendship". Good advice.
ReplyDeletelove the pot Betsy ~sorry about the friendship , it happens to everyone, so nice to see a relevant post when you need one too!
ReplyDeleteBetsy, I am encouraged that you were able to do that...it is a very healthy thing...many continue on in the dysfunctional relationship and resent it terribly. Good for you.
ReplyDeleteJill ~ well, it certainly wasn't easy...as you see it took me 2 years. But what a sense of relief that I'd done the right thing ...it was the confirmation that I needed. Still sad, though.
ReplyDeleteExcellent read Betsy. I'm sorry to hear your loss but sometimes that is needed. We recently ended a very long friendship with a couple we've been good friends with for 20 years! It got to an intolerable situation where you simply have to do what is best for your family.
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ReplyDeleteAmazing...
It's hard to let go of a friendship even when we know we need to, isn't it? This past year I had to let go of one of someone who had been one of my very dearest friends. It was so hard, but we had grown apart and I was tired of being hurt and frustrated at her all of the time. I knew I just had to let it go and I'm so glad I did. I recently had a very real confirmation that I had made the right choice, too.
ReplyDeleteJust this past week or so I discovered 4 Reluctant Entertainers--what a great blog!
Betsy, you are such a loving, caring, friendly sort, that I just know, if you felt you had to end a friendship, you must have had a very very good reason. So, I hope you have made peace with your decision, I feel sure it was the right one.
ReplyDeleteLora ~ wow...sounds like we were in similar situations! And yes, isn't Sandy's blog the best? :)
ReplyDeleteMmm ~ thanks...it's very hard, isn't it? I feel a loss, but more than anything feel relief. It was the right thing to do. And reminded me how important it is to be kind and treat others better than yourself.
ReplyDeleteLavinia ~ thank you.
ReplyDeleteBetsy, I'm sorry for the pain that you've been through. I enjoyed Sandy's post and agree with you that it is season with a lot of wisdom.
ReplyDeleteDon't you love when bloggie friends strike that cord.....I know I do.....It sounds like you knew what was best in this situation.
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