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Tuesday, June 10, 2014

Monday


Spencer ~ that look says it all.  He's inherited my smirk!
Harry ~ that looks says, get out the chips!
Alex ~ a tiny little smile!

The boys had their annual doctor's appointment today!

It's always a little stressful taking them by myself.
You'd think I would be used to it by now, but I noticed myself
feeling a little anxious this morning and clenching my jaw...my
involuntary go-to body language for when I'm stressed. ha.
I guess it's the old experiences of picking tantruming
boys off the floor, or trying to save others in the
waiting room from them trying to share their bottle of water,
or securing them in a body hold so they can get stuck with needles.

We went prepared with a can of Pringles, water and
internet on my phone for entertainment if things got really dire.
The worst is if we have to wait an extra long time.

We had some staff changes at our doctor's office so we were
seeing a new doctor and a new nurse.
I wasn't looking forward to the extra questions of staff 
who didn't know the boys.

As it turned out, I loved the new doctor!
Dr Lawrence Udom, if you're local.
Not only is he an MD but he's a psychiatrist, too!
And the nurse?  Well, she has a 13 year old son with autism!
We hit it off very well and shared a lot of commonalities.

We only had to use half the chips and didn't have to pull 
out the phone at all. haha.  They did just great!

Wonderful...really!  I'm so thankful!

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  1. Sounds as though it couldn't have gone any better in your wildest dreams! That has to be a good result for you all. They are so similar and so different when you see photos of all three boys (well, men now!) together. xx

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    1. You're right...it really couldn't have gone any better. Now I just have to remember that and not get nervous myself! haha. They really have grown up and come a long, long way.

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  2. Well I bet you feel a lot better now. You expected the worst and it wasn't so bad. Glad the boys behaved themselves. I notice they are wearing the same pattern T-Shirts, do they always dress similar?

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    1. yes, I feel much better. A string of stressful things today after the doctor, but thankfully the day is done and so is the stress. haha.

      I do dress the boys the same or similar some times, but not every day. Good thing about them being nonverbal is that they can't complain! haha. But seriously, they don't mind or they would show me.

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  3. You could write a book (I think I've said this before?).
    What I appreciate, is that you love and know your three boys so well.
    Way to go mom, you handled it well and all by yourself.
    They are very handsome men.

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    1. I would, but I'm afraid several people I know personally would read it and not
      appreciate my interpretation of their role in my life in the book. Family and church
      and people have played big roles...some wonderful and some not so wonderful,
      but it all goes to make up the journey we took. haha. :)

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    2. Oh, that would be gutsy. I may not be able to go to church again. ha.
      Some of the others don't talk to me anyway, so no loss there.
      I think it might cause more controversy than it would be worth.
      Gossip spread like wild fire in our little village. Whew! It would be burning! lol...

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    3. Remember graduation? Gosh...multiply that by a million. lol...

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  4. Yea for successful doctor visits!

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    1. I know! I'm doing a yippee dance! ha. It's really nice when you like your doctor.

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  5. Im.happy you had a successful doctor visits!
    I understand you were nervous:)

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    1. I think I'll be better next time...it's just hard to forget the bad times! haha.

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    2. Im agree Betsy is difficult.
      But today was good so the next will be fine.
      What amazing she has an old son with autism! So she could understand more the boys!

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    3. I wanna say Son not old son Betsy sorry!

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    4. yes, that was a nice surprise....she understood the boys very well and we had a nice chat!

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  6. Phew! I was thinking about you all day and hoping things went well. How fortunate that both the doctor and nurse are great and what a coincidence about her son. You couldn't have asked for more! Yay for the boys, and Yay for you! xox

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    1. It's true...I couldn't have asked for more. I'm so grateful. And the psychiatric degree is an extra bonus.

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  7. I love it when a plan comes together. How great that you really like the new doctor, and how great that the nurse was so understanding of autism. I think the little smirk, is cute.

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    1. Spencer was saying "I really don't want to be here!" haha.

      I did love how it all worked out...I can see God's hand in that the whole way...

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  8. Glad that both the doc and the nurse turned out well..now you will be much relaxed..wish you a nice and successful week..

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    1. Yes, next time I will be more relaxed! Whew!

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  9. Hi Besty- I'm so glad to hear it went well and that you liked the Doctor- what a relief! :)

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    1. Yes, it is a relief! We've had some stressful outings..not just the doctor...so you really never know what to expect with my boys. But they are growing up and maybe we've past those times.

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  10. I love it when you write about the triplets! This was a great day ~~ for all of you!

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    1. It was a good day! They are growing up!

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  11. God did indeed have a hand in today I am sure - and I am so pleased the visit went well and was not distressing for the boys or you.
    Glad you and the boys liked the new doctor and the nurse was very helpful. This will make the next visit a little easier if they can remember him.
    The thing I found most moving about your summary was when you ended, "Wonderful...really! I'm so thankful!".
    That to me tells me that on previous ocassions things were tricky and stressful. Please now try to unwind and relax if you can and you may not find you are holding your jaw in axiety. You are a wonderful mother and the salt of the earth.

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    1. Oh, yes, we've had some incredibly hard experiences with the boys out in public. Crazy things! I really could write a book.

      Yes, I really do have to take care with my jaw. If I'm stressed over several days, I get a nerve pain in it and it feels like my cheek is wet when it is not! Really strange. I have to consciously relax it and take care of it or it gets really bad. Maybe I need the psychiatrist part of that doctor. lol....

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    2. Well the moms needs help too.
      But Im agree now relax Betsy:)

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    3. Sometimes I think the moms need the most help! haha. We take things to heart and feel their responsibility so much!

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    4. There, just try to relax that jaw and listen to some nice relaxing slow music and hopefully that will be therapeutic :)

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    5. That's a really good idea! :)

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    6. tes Betsy I think the same (and for this somettimes mine headaches) but can we do??
      We die for kids!
      I love the Spencer´s face he look lovely:)

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  12. Those are cute pictures! I'm so glad the appt went well. God chose the right place for all of you!

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    1. Yes, he did...I'm so glad..and thankful!

      How is your eye?

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  13. Hi Betsy, that is good news! The right dr is so important but also hard to find.

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    1. Yes, and I'm so glad I didn't have to go searching. I hate that kind of journey. lol....

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  14. Great news....great day....so happy for you and the men♥️
    Enjoy your week.....
    Unclench that jaw!
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)

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    1. I'm wiggling it into relaxation as we speak! haha.

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  15. Glad it went so well for you. The boys look great.
    I hate doctor visits too. Thankfully there aren't many of them these days. Short reprieve before they pick up again, I suppose.
    Goodness! I don't even know if I have a doctor anymore...

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    1. I need to go myself! I'm about 3 years overdue for all kinds of things. haha.

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    2. I must be at least that. But who's counting.
      :0)

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    3. Well, I try not, but the longer I wait the more embarrassing it will be to return! lol.
      I at least need my cholesterol fixed. I already know it's high but we decided to fix my arthritis first...then that doctor
      left...and I never went back! Then I did the dentist instead...and got braces...
      My excuses are running out. lol....

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    4. After a while the excuse is that you're probably not in their list of patients anymore...

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    5. I might have to borrow that one. haha.

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  16. Glad they did grand
    And a good Dr. in your land
    They are hard to find
    I remember my uncle used to sit legs crossed on his behind
    He wasn't going near that place
    Had to pick him up and he still would not move with a stern look on his face lol
    He gave the dentist the finger a few times too
    Didn't like such a zoo lol
    Good when it goes off without a hitch
    And Pringles can cure many an itch

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    1. They knew I had the chips
      so they probably thought they could endure the trip.
      The dentist is someone we need to try
      and maybe I'll be brave this summer by and by. haha.

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    2. Good luck with that,
      Way worse than a Dr. at ones mat

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    3. Yep, I've been dragging my feet.
      But the excuse is a good one, the way I see.
      ha.

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  17. So glad it went well! What a gift to have just the right people in the right place at the right time :) God is good at making things work like that, eh? :)

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    1. He sure is. I was so encouraged when we left. Yay!

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  18. I know just how difficult these occasions can be (well, one-third anyway), so I am very happy for you that all went so well. And that you found s great doctor and nurse.

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    1. Yes, you can relate, can't you! And then you can relate to my relief and happiness, too! :)

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  19. Whew. So glad it went well.

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  20. I don't know if I clench, but I also tend to hold my jaw very tightly and it doesn't seem like I am until I start to focus and try to relax it. Then I realise how tight it is. I use various self-massage and accupressure techniques for various parts of my body that ache and they are so helpful. But here is a link that I read a while ago that may help you. It has helped me. The massaging of the masseter feels so good. The drunken speech sounds like a strange exercise but it works... you simply can't clench when you are doing this. Now I know you are going to look at the "surprise" exercise and say, "What?! I don't have an hour to spare!" But the thing is you just do it along with whatever else you are doing and if you find your mouth closes, you just open it again. Odd... but it works! Do you think I am nuts? Hee hee - see what you think... I hope it helps. http://saveyourself.ca/articles/spot-07-masseter.php

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    1. Suza come to see my cake I think you would like :)

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    2. Ok..thank you...I'll take a look. Love the name of it...save yourself. ha.

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    3. Oh Gloria - I just looked at my calendar and realised it was your birthday today! I wrote it in a long time ago, but forgot to look today. HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Now I am coming to look at your cake...

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    4. Hehe thanks Suza I love your rhym .makeme laugh and BTW still I have crepe cake:)

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  21. So very thankful to hear it went so well. Always a blessing to have an understanding/compassionate dr. and nurse!

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    1. Thanks, Mildred! Yes, it's so nice!

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  22. So happy the new doc and new nurse visit went well! Yay!! And these pics of your beautiful boys are fab! Take care
    x

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    1. Thanks Kitty! It turned out to be just fine! So glad!

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  23. ha. their looks say enough eh?
    glad the doctors visits went well...
    esp in light of the changes

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    1. Yeah, not too thrilled to be there, but they behaved and were very patient.

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  24. I'm so glad it went well for you Betsy -
    Mary x

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    1. Thanks, Mary...I was pretty happy about it all.

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  25. Such great photos.
    I so enjoy {and admire you} when you share your "adventures" with the boys.

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    1. haha...I love how you said adventures. Yes, every day is one! Thankfully, we can laugh about them later...some much later than others. ha.

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  26. That's wonderful news about the Dr. trip and the boys. Also, I wanted to say I love what you & "the mister" did with your blue shade garden, so pretty. It's nice you have that wonderful yard to "escape" to and relax some each day.

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    1. thank you....it really is an improvement to that little part of the yard!

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  27. I was wondering if the boys each have their own favorite thing?

    I am glad the doctor's visit turned out to be a good experience.

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    1. Well, they all love trains! Anything to do with trains...riding them, pictures and books, DVD's of them...anything! At least they can all agree on that! haha.

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  28. such handsome buys, I'm so glad your day went well, I usually accompanied our Lyndsy with gracie to the doctor and know it can be a challenge with one autistic child, I cannot imagine how hard some days are with three, I wish we had more services in this area to help our family understand how to deal with Gracie's moods, methods to cope and understand Gracie better, even suggestions on things to try, our Northern town is so sadly lacking in resources, everyday is a new adventure and somedays a new struggle, have a great day Betsy,

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    1. It makes it so difficult, too, that each autistic child is different! The spectrum is so broad and even the treatments vary so much. What works on one of my boys may not work on his brother. No wonder they have that puzzle piece as a symbol!

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  29. Betsy!!!! We love him too! I have NOT taken N to him yet! BUT I WILL!

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  30. Such good news...this post made me smile. The pictures are perfect!

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  31. Awesome news! Those kinds of major changes in doctoring can be very tough. Thankful to know God sent you kisses from heaven this time around. Love the pics! XO

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  32. Hi Betsy .. so pleased that went off successfully and the newbies must relax you so much .. that's so good to read .. cheers Hilary

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